Nobody knows how hard your life is but you. But chances are you can always find something to be thankful for. And if you learn how to be thankful, you can drown the bad in a huge good things.
Things weren’t going well for my friend Alicia. She’d had a great career in coding working for Google. But she had a flu that wouldn’t stop. It lingered for months on end, and she couldn’t work anymore.
She spent much of her life savings and still couldn’t get over her “flu.” She didn’t know what was wrong. As if things weren’t difficult enough, her cousin died of a brain tumor.
At 32 years old, Alicia had to move back in with her parents.
“I felt like a complete failure,” Alicia said to me. “If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything.” Watching television with her mother each night, she’d grip her hand, worried that she would lose her parents, as well.
But Alicia focused on the things that were good in her life. “I felt incredibly thankful and grateful that I had these wonderful parents in my life.” Her parents loved to cook. Sometimes, they let her help when she had the energy.
She was very good at coding. So she started posting recipes online—hand-coded in HTML.
“Every day, I could choose between feeling sorry for myself, or I could just take a deep breath, go with it, and add a recipe to the website….Whatever you pay attention to, you’re going to get more of that.”
Two years after moving back in with her parents, Alicia had a relapse. She was spending almost the entire day in bed, but she kept posting recipes. She connected with her readers and other food bloggers, but kept quiet about the mysterious illness that threatened to drown her spirits.
Alicia said to herself one day: “I’m just going to keep my mind focused on everything that is good and joyful and loving and wonderful in this world and in my life, and see what I can do to bring some of that to other people.
My recipe website was my ‘treasure place.’ It was my place where there was just goodness and love….Everything about that site for me was about love and family and this little bright spot in my life that, if I looked around, it just seemed really, really, really dark.”
Today, five years later, her recipes website is one of the most popular recipe sites on the internet. Alicia has personally posted about 1,600 recipes. And the illness that kept her in bed has passed.
If things are not going well or at least aren’t going your way, try to concentrate on the things that are good. Like a crack on a sidewalk, or a snowball tumbling down a hill, they’ll grow and multiply.
In some situations, that won’t always be possible. And that’s good. But if you are able to, the next thing you know, the darkness will be pushed out, and you’ll have built something great.
That’s the power of being thankful.