Okay first I’m going to tell you something truly unpleasant, and then hopefully move into something more practical.

Are you ready for it?

The secret to self-control is knowing yourself.

That totally sounds like a nonsense, so let me take it back a little bit.

Zero things in life are sustainable if you do not enjoy in them on some level. Each time I attempt and accomplish something…

A) just for the money — I fail

B) just for the recognition — I quit

C) just for the fame — I get bored

D) just for my resume — I die inside

If there is a big mystery, that is figuring out what your personal secret is. What do you care about? What do you not care about at all? Do less of the latter as often as possible.


1.If you are operating better when you get up at 9, don’t get up at 7.

3. If you don’t need 8 hours of sleep, take 6 instead.

4. If you hate eating fruits, drink them in something that tastes good.

5. If you hate Pilates, lift weights instead.

6.If you hate both, do yoga.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to self discipline. Know what you need to do, know what you like to do within that area (e.g. rugby or whatever), and then go all in on that tiny area.

Why a tiny area first?

Because self-discipline begets self-discipline


When you can focus on one thing, it is easier for you to do the next thing. And the next. And the next.

Knock over one domino, and the rest will follow.

So now, a challenge:

Do one thing you are keen on in for 30 days. But, no excuses, no days off and no misses.

I recently came off a stint as NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) cheerleader. I’m preoccupied with that program because in order to write an entire novel in a month, participants all but have to write every day.


Here, in this trial-by-fire atmosphere, budding writers change their lives forever- simply because they were willing to go through a bit of torment.

When you concentrate on 30 days of action, regardless of what is the cost of that, this is what will happen:

You will feel great on day 3.

You will hate everything on day 8.

But by day 18, you will be unstoppable.

Stay focused. Stay balanced. Learn, and most importantly: